My Love First (#REWIRED Part 2)


One of my favorite old school slow jams is “My First Love” by Rene’& Angela. It talks about two people who fell in love, but the relationship didn’t work out. However, in the end the two still loved each other. Great song! However, if we want to have successful relationships, we may need to switch things up.

Romans 5:8 says, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”

Even when we weren’t lovable God showed His love to us. Additionally, 1 John 4:7-8 teaches us to love each other, because “everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.” He goes on to say, “The one who does not love does not love God, for God is love.”

When we combine these two ideas, we discover that, as it relates to relationships, we are commanded to love first. Last week, I told you that it take three components for every relationship to be successful: love, trust, and intimacy. If we are striving to be Godly, love has to be automatic.

Love is not a suggestion, we are commanded to love everyone absolutely, with no exceptions; but what does that mean? Biblically, love is defined as the demonstration of my concern for another’s well-being before my own. God loves us and he showed us by giving His only Son to die, that we may live. That’s love.

Why, then, does God command us to love? It is because we have received unconditional love from Him, so He expects us to extend the same love to everyone else. Unfortunately, this is not what we do. We act as if people have to earn our love. God wants to rewire us to love like Him.

John asks, how can we say we love God and have never seen Him, then fail to love the people we see every day? You are required to demonstrate your genuine concern for others, no matter who they are. We accomplish this by determining the purpose for every relationship, because love never assumes. Don’t ever take for granted that people know you love them. They have to see its demonstration, feel its affection, and know its devotion. Once you know why a person is in your life, then you know how to extend that love to them.

This makes perfect sense. If you are complete in Christ and He meets all your needs, then you are able to meet others needs (once again, not in the sense that you complete the other person, but to the degree that you compliment them). Everyone’s needs will be met, without frustration.  God’s love is perfected in us when we love others, the same way He loves us. Think about it like this: one of the greatest guy groups of all time, Commissioned,  sang the lyrics “love isn’t love, ’till you’ve given it way.”

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