Any sane person who knew that something was harmful or lethal, will usually stay away from it or handle it with caution. Most people who are poisoned, usually didn’t see it coming. According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), unintentional poisoning deaths have increased 160% in a decade. So many of us are dealing with poisonous situations and we don’t even realize it. This is especially true with toxic relationships. It is quite possible that you may be in a toxic relationship and not even know it. Any relationship can be toxic and I would like to share with you 6 signs of a toxic relationship.
1. Nothing done is ever good enough.
Overcoming the anxiety over performing for people is very difficult. To finally be comfortable enough to be yourself with someone only to be met with constant criticism is very damaging. If a person is never satisfied with another that is a sign; there is something terribly wrong.
2. No allowance for growth and change.
People change everyday. We learn new things, have new experiences, and try new styles. If a person is only allowed to be static and stagnant, there is something terribly wrong.
3. Unable to enjoy happy moments.
This would be the proverbial wet blanket. Anytime something good happens, it is met with cynical or minimizing language. If anyone continues to rain on parades, there is something terribly wrong.
4. One person is the focus of both people
Relationships, in every form (romance, family, friendship), are all about two people. Both people have to be concerned about each other for the relationship to be healthy. Both parties can’t be focusing on the happiness, fulfillment, and contentment of just one person. If one person is left out in the relational cold, there is something terribly wrong.
5. Manipulation is present.
Manipulation comes in many forms. Some people use manipulation to control others, for their own selfish purposes. Others will manipulate situations or conversations to prevent certain damaging outcomes. If you cannot be forthright and open with one another, for whatever the reason, manipulation is a sign that there is something terribly wrong.
6. Feeling depleted.
Whenever you are with someone you leave feeling drained, or exhausted, as if you have just run a marathon or taken the SAT, that’s a sign that something is terribly wrong. No one person should have the power to complete you, because then they will have the potential to deplete you.
If you find yourself in a relationship with one or any of these characteristics, be warned. You are in a toxic relationship, and are in danger of serious relational harm. You must eliminate or at least limit your exposure to that poison. Knowing what danger you are in is the first step to saving your life. No relationship is worth losing yourself for. Be encouraged and know that God has something better in store for you.
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