People talk all the time about wanting love. They say stuff like they want to “find love”, but truth be told, love isn’t lost. We find love in the things we value.
One man will say that he wants a “good woman”, but values sex. So he will waste time with women that feed his sexual desires, but have no substance. Another man will say that he wants a “good woman”, but values control. So he will prey on weak women that will yield, but produce no value. And yet another man will say that he wants a “good woman”, but values status. So he will parade his trophy publicly, but will experience no tenderness privately.
A woman will say that she wants a “good man”, but she values security. So she will settle for a man who will provide a comfortable lifestyle, but will neglect her heart. Another woman will say that she wants a “good man”, but she values extravagance. So she will dig for his gold, and won’t even care about his soul. And yet another woman will say that she wants a “good man”, but she values her independence. So she will totally emasculate her man in order to protect her self-worth.
Love is not that selfish. There are good people who are ready to love, but there are others who are just plain selfish. Brotha-man, why does your woman have to be a dime? Why can’t she have valuable insight to help you have a better life? Sista-girl, why does your man have to be a baller? Why can’t he make less money than you or be less educated and still have your respect?
Perhaps you’re not finding love because you’re not willing to love unconditionally. Free yourself from your own selfishness and perhaps love will find you.
Just my 2¢.
“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:21 (New American Standard Bible).
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