Most of us didn’t grow up on a farm, nor have we ever had to spend any extensive amounts of time with the barn yard animals. The most we know of the social inner workings at the barn is EB Whites’s Charlotte’s Web (one of my favorite animated movies ever, and I cry every time). In real life, however, there is an interesting social phenomena among chickens. The young male chicken, called a cockerel, at some point will dance for the ladies.
The cockerel “waltz”, when the cockerel struts in a half circle with one wing extended down, is an aggressive approach signifying to females his dominance. Once dominance is established, the cockerel will rarely waltz again. When other cockerels are in the hen yard, this waltz is used significantly more and most cockerels will waltz together if dominance has not been established; either one will back off, or the two cockerels will fight. Some more aggressive cockerels will drop and extend both wings and puff out all their body feathers to give the hens and/or other cocks the impression of a larger size, and charge through the hen yard like a bull. (from Wikipedia)
This is the reason, whenever we see anyone that displays a grand sense of confidence, we tend to call them “cocky”. Cockiness or arrogance is the offensive display of superiority or self-importance, but some people have been unfairly given this brand. People sometimes perceive your confidence to be cockiness. They think this because you don’t walk with your head down. They assume that because you aren’t afraid to do and say the things that they would never do, that you are like a puffed up bird, prancing around the barnyard.
Some people just can’t handle your confidence. While there are plenty of people who are very self-absorbed, and territorial, you just happen to know what you can bring to the table, even if you have to eat alone. Cocky people need other people see their grandeur, but you naturally exude confidence without even trying. I have come to find out that only insecure people are annoyed by confidence.
I, myself have been accused of being arrogant, which is nowhere near my personality. My dad just taught me, in words and deeds, to never allow anyone no matter who they are to intimidate you. So I have always walked with an air of confidence, even when I didn’t feel confident. So let me encourage you. Make no apologies. God has made you, and if He believes you and your abilities, talents, and gifts, why shouldn’t you? It isn’t a bad thing to know what you are capable of.
The Apostle Paul was apparently looking cocky to those around him, so he says to the church in Corinth, “Does it sound like we’re patting ourselves on the back, insisting on our credentials, asserting our authority?” (2 Corinthians 3:1, The Message)
But to assure his readers that he had not gone the way of arrogance, he goes on to say, “Such confidence we have through Christ toward God. Not that we are adequate in ourselves to consider anything as coming from ourselves, but our adequacy is from God, who also made us adequate as servants of a new covenant..” 2 Corinthians 3:4-6a, New American Standard Bible)
Just know that when other people can’t handle you confidence, walk tall anyway. God believes in you.
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