As I stated in Part 1; thanks to Tupac, we have an entire generation of people who use this single phrase to justify poor behavior and bad decisions: “ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME.” People want the freedom to just say and do whatever they please, without any accountability. I guess we figure that answering to God will put off having to answer to people, but in today’s world, that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Here are 5 tips for anyone who feels like a victim of judgement:
1. People are going to judge you anyway.
Every one judges! Yes, everyone judges everything; including you. Judging is forming a conclusion or opinion concerning what had been observed or through evidence collected. Every person alive has an opinion about mostly everything, not only that, but we are all entitled to that opinion. Once you wrap your mind around this truth, then you can prepare yourself for the judgement.
2. Check yourself.
Most people who resist judgement, are people who have ulterior motives. If someone is paying attention close enough, they may discover in their assessment that something is wrong. So you have to examine your motives, making sure that whatever you are doing is for the right reasons. If it’s not, you’re fair game.
3. Explain yourself.
Anything you do, you should be ready to defend. I work with children, and one of my pet peeves is shoulder shrugs. I will ask a student, “Why did you do that?” Shoulder shrug. “Why did you say that?” Shoulder shrug. “What is your problem?” Shoulder shrug. I hate it with a passion. Being able to articulate ideas, reasons, and motives saves people from jumping to conclusions.
4. Listen To Criticism.
It is quite possible that you got it wrong. Everyone that offers an opinion is not a hater, nor is everyone being judgmental. Some people are just calling it how they see it, and maybe you should listen to them. We can’t see ourselves the way other people see us. It would be wise to at least listen to all criticism, constructive or not, because it may actually be good advice.
5. Don’t Take It Personally.
You are not defined by what people say of you, neither do you have to answer every judgement. Just because someone makes a judgement call, doesn’t mean you are forced to BE what they say or think. You have nothing to prove, so let God get the final judgement. Until then, don’t take it personally when people judge you or what you do. You know who you are, so be confident in that.
“He who corrects a scoffer gets dishonor for himself, and he who reproves a wicked man gets insults for himself. Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man and he will increase his learning. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. For by me your days will be multiplied, and years of life will be added to you. If you are wise, you are wise for yourself; and if you scoff, you alone will bear it.” (Proverbs 9:7-12, New American Standard Bible)
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