Ever since Destiny’s Child hit the air waves, instructing all the women who’re independent to throw their hands up and Lil Boosie proved he knows how to spell, independence has become a new virtue. I can’t count the number of times I hear people say that they don’t need anybody. But let me be honest, everybody needs somebody. We, as human beings, are not designed to be alone. When God created Adam, he had everything he needed (God, abundance of food, and job to do), yet God said it wasn’t good for him to be without human relationships.
Independence is overrated, and not only that; I also believe that the assertion of independence is a cue for some serious character flaws.
To think so highly of one’s self and purposefully exclude people from one’s life is a huge demonstration of pride; something God hates. That level of pride will also shove God out of His rightful place in a person’s life. Self sufficiency excludes everyone, including the almighty.
Self sufficiency is a grand delusion, because ultimately, we are all deficient in something. We need each other. Whenever someone is working within delusions of grandeur, they will eventually hurt themselves, thinking they CAN DO what the CANNOT. This causes people to suffer needlessly, especially when there are people already in their lives who are willing and able to help.
I really believe the assertion of “independence” is a code word for selfish. People who don’t want the help or involvement of others, basically want to live life on their own terms, not having to be accountable to anyone. I have noticed that a lot of people in my generation have this flaw, thinking that accountability gives up control, when in all actuality it is ultimately helpful.
At the risk of sounding a little too deep, I lament for my generation. We only tend appreciate patience, reason, accountability and sacrifice when we are on the receiving end of it. Being completely independent ultimately leaves you lonely, broken, and fruitless. You don’t need everybody, but everybody needs somebody.
“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness…'” 2 Corinthians 12:9a (English Standard Version)
“For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.” Romans 12:3 (English Standard Version)
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