Around age thirteen or so, we all get this itch to be grown. Being under constant adult or parental supervision gets to be very nerve wrecking, because we all tend to think we really know what’s best for ourselves. “I can’t wait to grow up and be on my own,” are words we’ve all said, until adulthood gave us the bill.
Control is something most adults cherish. After turning twenty-one, we really feel like we have earned the right to make our own decisions. But being in control of yourself, to be quite honest, can be overwhelming (and quite expensive). With control comes responsibility, and for many of us, we weren’t ready. We had to bump our heads, learn as we go, and some of us are yet learning. The more we think we have it all under our thumb the more we see that we really don’t have control.
I won’t speak for you, but perhaps you’re like me; in that for the most part, I really don’t know whats best for me. I tend to prefer the paths with the least resistance, and I’d rather no struggle, challenge nor conflict. But I’ve found that it is the resistance, the struggles, the challenges, and even the conflicts that ultimately mature me and make me the man God wants me to be. All of those things that I tried to avoid, let me know that I am really not in control, and I still need help.
I have learned, very quickly, that I am not equipped to handle my life on my own. I need the wisdom of God , the experience of my elders, and the support of my peers. King Solomon wrote, “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” (Proverbs 3:5-6, King James Version) If you grew up in a Christian church like me, I’m sure you probably know this passage by heart; but the emphasis of this whole section is not to assume you know it all:
Good friend, don’t forget all I’ve taught you;
take to heart my commands.
They’ll help you live a long, long time,
a long life lived full and well.
Don’t lose your grip on Love and Loyalty.
Tie them around your neck; carve their initials on your heart.
Earn a reputation for living well
in God’s eyes and the eyes of the people.
Trust God from the bottom of your heart;
don’t try to figure out everything on your own.
Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;
he’s the one who will keep you on track.
Don’t assume that you know it all.
Run to God! Run from evil!
Your body will glow with health,
your very bones will vibrate with life!
Honor God with everything you own;
give him the first and the best.
Your barns will burst,
your wine vats will brim over.
But don’t, dear friend, resent God’s discipline;
don’t sulk under his loving correction.
It’s the child he loves that God corrects;
a father’s delight is behind all this.
– Proverbs 3:1-12 (The Message Bible)
We all need help, because we are really not in control. At your core, you know this is true, so let me encourage you to let go of the reigns … let Jesus take the wheel (I am aware that I’m mixing metaphors, but just go along with the bit). God has a better vantage point, and He’s working with a greater knowledge. He will , if you let Him, order your steps to people who can help with and see you through the challenges that life brings.
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“Control” written by James Harris III, Terry Lewis, and Janet Jackson, released 1986.