I’m a pastor, and in my line of work, I continually give of myself. It’s my job to build relationships with people, in the efforts to disciple them. I pray for them, celebrate with them, and even mourn with them; mirroring our relationships with Christ himself. A pastor’s relationship with a parishioner is much more than casual; it is as intimate as family. My children get to know them, and our family genuinely loves them. But unfortunately, many times, those relationships end. When a person leaves a church, no matter the reason, they often leave the relationships created there behind (particularly with the pastor).
It is what it is.
But I have a fatal flaw; I have the tendency to take those things personally. I usually receive those types of situations as rejection, and it hurts. I have the same tendency to take to heart many things; and it causes me to constantly put myself under a microscope, trying to figure out what I did wrong to make people feel this way about me. I’ve done this all my life, for as far as I can remember.
I know I’m not the only one. Perhaps you are just like me, wearing your feelings on your sleeves, only to find yourself hurt and feeling rejected. Well today, I am here to remind you, the same way that God has to remind me, not to take everything so personally. Rejection is hardly ever about the rejected, as much as it is about the one who’s rejecting. I’ve heard it said that you can be the ripest, juiciest, most wonderful peach in the world, but there will still be someone who hates peaches. There is absolutely nothing that peach can do to win over someone who hates peaches. So don’t take it personal.
Israel petitioned and begged God for a king. Up until that time, they were a theocracy, led by God Himself. Samuel was the prophet of God, who stood in the gap between Jehovah and Israel. Because of his position Samuel was grieved by this change of heart by the people. Being God’s main man, Samuel took their cries for change personally, and God had to settle his heart; saying, “Listen to the voice of the people in regard to all that they say to you, for they have not rejected you, but they have rejected Me from being king over them.” (1 Samuel 8:7, New American Standard Bible)
God created you to be you. He made no mistakes nor are you an afterthought. He was intentional. If by chance someone else fails to accept what God created, it isn’t you that’s ultimately being rejected. Just like God told Samuel, it is Him and His divine will for you that they reject. Don’t take it personal, when you think they treat you wrong. It’s just one of those things that we can’t help. Stay true to who God desires you to be and let the chips fall where they may. Be encouraged.
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“Don’t Take It Personal (Just One of Dem Days)” was written by Dallas Austin, Monica Arnold, Willie James Baker, Derrick Simmons, James Todd Smith, Carlton Ridenhour, Quincy Jones III, Abrim Tilmon, Jr., Hank Shocklee, Eric Sadler, George Clinton, and James Brown. Produced by Dallas Austin. Performed by Monica. Released 1995