I Am Not Your Safety Net (Yet)

Imagine yourself in high school, and it’s your senior year. Prom is coming up and you’re making plans. You have an idea of what you want to wear, how you’re going to get there and where you’re going to have dinner. Most importantly you know EXACTLY who you want to go with! The most gorgeous person in the school! One day, while sitting at lunch, that person decides to sit next to you so you casually bring up the prom, trying your best to play it smooth. They immediately say, without any solicitation, that they have been thinking about going with you. Of course you light up and feel all warm and fuzzy inside; but before you can make it official, they follow it up with this question: “If no one else wants to go with me, could we go together?”

(WAIT …. WHAT?!)

The only way that person will be your date, is if you are the absolute LAST person in the school who wants them to be? How unflattering, almost insulting is that?! They want you to be their “safety net”, and I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be the last resort. I would much rather be a first choice, because I don’t want anyone settling for me.

My son has this thing, that if we go to the store to buy something for him, and that store doesn’t have what he wants, he will pick up just about anything, just to have something new. In all actuality, he is not really interested in that thing at all, he just doesn’t want to leave empty-handed.  So instead of taking the chance and having the patience to wait for what he really wants, he settles for a toy that will ultimately go into the abyss of unwanted things. This is the picture I get, when people settle.

I don’t want anyone settling for me. I don’t want to be anyone’s safety net, or at least not yet!

My wife and I have been married for 15 years, and I am her safety net, as she is also mine. However, we haven’t always been.  Marriage, provides a covering and a safety for the people in it, that can be found nowhere else. This is a great benefit of saying I do, and I love being her safety net. Being my wife’s safety has afforded her less anxiety about starting a business, going back to school, and even having children; while her being my safety net, allowed me to pursue my own business, and ministry. But neither of us would be that safety, unless the other one FIRST took a leap. We married young, and neither of us were either of our last choice. We didn’t make a marriage pact, where if neither of us were married by the age of 45, we would marry each other. I don’t think I could ever do that. On the contrary we decided at 21 and 19, to take the leap, and that fact makes a difference.

In much the same way, God wants us to choose Him! So many people in our culture identify as believers only when it suits them. But God doesn’t want to be our convenient choice, He wants to be our hearts desire, just like in the 3 examples above.

The prophet Elijah told the people of Israel, in a challenge to their preoccupation with Baal (an idol god), “How long will you hesitate between two opinions? If the LORD is God, follow Him; but if Baal, follow him.” (1 Kings 18:21b, New American Standard Bible) In other words, stop making God your safety net, if you’re not willing to make the leap of faith for Him! Yes, you will find security in Him, but only after you take the chance, and pull all your faith in Him.

© 2016 Derek J. Murphy Enterprises, and I AM KINGDOM Publishing, All Rights Reserved.

If you enjoyed this article, please feel free to share it with your family, friends and social media to help spread this encouragement. Thank you for reading!



Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s