No one knows how much you’ve grown, like you. You know exactly where you have come from, how you used to be, and how you have matured. You’ve changed.
How easily we forget that change is inevitable? If there is no other constant, change is. Nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing, remains the same except God. Everything God is, is everything God will be, and James 1:17 describes His unchanging nature, as “no shadow of turning”. Everything else, is subject to change.
To take it a step further, everything changes because everything changes. In other words, when something changes around you, you then change to adapt. Or when someone changes on you, you change to adapt yourself to them. Nothing remains the same.
I live in a small town on the border of northeast Texas, and southwest Arkansas. I have lived here all my life, so I take for granted how much this city has grown and developed, because I live here. I’m here everyday adapting to the changes. My brother, however, hasn’t lived here for almost a decade. Yes he grew up here, and even lived some of his adult years here, but he will ask for directions to somewhere and I’m shocked. I say, “you know where that is,” when in fact, he doesn’t, because things have changed, and he hasn’t been able to adapt.
I said all that to say this: things change. People change. It’s not necessarily anyone’s fault, it’s just the nature of things. This is true in everything, including relationships. Very few people are with you for the long haul, and many people will walk away. It will not always be your fault when people walk away, just know that things change and people change. There are many people who can’t adapt to the person you’ve become, and many others who won’t adapt to the person you will be, and that’s okay. Don’t faint at the fact that everyone can’t go, or grow with you. Things change. People change.
So while it may be challenging, and sometimes even hurtful, allow people the latitude to change, or even the grace to not be able to adapt to your changing. My wife says it all the time: “It is what it is, until it’s not what it was.”
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not tremble or be dismayed (when things change), for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9, New American Standard Version.
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