Don’t Be Desperate

“Sure I can swim!”

Why, Lord?! Why did I lie like that? Six or seven years old, visiting a friend of my dad’s, I see a beautiful pool in the back yard. Being that it was a hot summers day, and my parents would always let me get into the pool at hotels, I thought it was perfectly fine. So unbeknownst to my parents, I was given some swim trunks and instructions to have fun; so I cannon-balled in! 

I took no time to notice that I was jumping into the deep end. 8 feet! So sinking further than I expected, I began to panic. Desperate to get to the top, I began fighting the water and zapping my strength. Then I hear a splash next to me, and I feel arms wrap around me. But instead of resting in those arms, I continue to flay my arms and kick my legs. I couldn’t breathe. I’m swallowing water. This is really bad, and I’m certain I’m about to die. After what seemed like an eternity, we finally make it to the surface, and after taking a huge gust of air, I immediately I throw up on the side of the pool.

The owner of the pool said, “when I got a hold to you, you could have calmed down.”

But I couldn’t I was desperate. Desperation will cause you to unreasonable things, because desperation is never rational.

Many of us are showing signs of desperation unnecessarily. As it relates to dealing with others, whether it be in romantic, platonic, or business relationships, many people act as if we are desperate for attention, affection, or opportunities. But when you know your worth, you don’t have to be desperate.

You don’t have to chase people down to be your friends, or to do business with them. If people want you, they know where to find you. You don’t have to go out of your way to alter yourself, just to meet someone’s preferences. If people can’t appreciate who you are or what you bring to the table, let them find exactly what they want. You don’t have to say yes to every opportunity that comes your way. Free yourself to say yes to the right opportunities. You don’t have to brown nose or kiss butt to get anything. Just be genuine and things will happen in due time.

Don’t be desperate. Relationally, it is better to be alone than desperate; or else you will settle for unhealthy and toxic relationships. Professionally, it is better to struggle than it is to be desperate; or else you will compromise you ethics, values, and self worth, just to get ahead. Don’t be desperate; at least not for others. Your hope is found in God; so if you are desperate for anyone, be desperate for Him. Rest is the love of the Fathers heart, the arms of the Fathers will, and the timing of the Fathers plan.

“It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust (and hope) in (people).” Psalms 118:9, English Standard Version.

© 2016 Derek J. Murphy Enterprises, and I AM KINGDOM Publishing, All Rights Reserved.

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