I hate to say it, but reality is relative. We all have our own variations of what is real and what is not, and we subsequently live in response to the reality we choose. Where there was once absolutes surrounding things as fundamental as gender identification, we now live in a culture where all those concrete concepts are now being broken up, and we get live in our own relative realities.
Those who know me best, know that I was a huge fan of the Muppet Babies when I was a kid. This was a show that promoted the use of creativity and imagination to manifest a world of wonder, amazement, and enjoyment for kids. I was so enamored with the show, I found myself mimicking the things they did in Nanny’s playroom, in my own bedroom. I grew up as the only small child in the house, so it was easy for me to get lost in my own imagination. But eventually, I had to face my realities.
In many ways, the ability to create a different reality, even for the moment, kept me from facing the hard things in my life. Things like dealing with death just about every year, twice a year, and on both sides of my families, was hard to face. Or like being sexually molested by a family friend was hard to process. Or struggling with weight issues, self-confidence, and perceived rejection, as far back as I can remember, made it very difficult to cope; so I escaped into another reality. My imagination is so vivid, that even today I find trouble remembering if somethings from my childhood actually happened, or if it was all in my head.
I’ve come to learn that immaturity is what keeps us from facing the harsh, and heavy reality of our past and experience. God knows everything that happened, and even everything we imagine. He wants to help us face the truth of all that we’ve been through, without resorting to unholy imaginations. He is waiting patiently to bring us back to the life He has designed, despite damage the drama of our past. His will is that we reside in the HIS reality, that may require misery in order to ultimately overcome. He wants us to know what He knows: “…that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28, New American Standard Bible).
You will never be fully content in the realities you’ve created. It will only drive you further and further away from what will truly bring you peace and understanding. We have to let go of the controls and let God do His work in us. So until you’re ready to get back life and back to (HIS) reality, He’ll leave it in your hands. However do you want Him. However do you need Him.
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“Back To Life” Written by Jazzie B, Caron Wheeler, Nellee Hooper, and Simon Law. Produced by Jazzie B and Nellee Hooper. Performed by Soul II Soul. Released 1989.