Unfortunately, we tend to devalue our success by looking at the success of others. I don’t like to think that there are “levels” to success, but instead, people experience different types of success. If we don’t use this idea and model for measuring success, it can become a dangerous game, that no one wins, when we begin to compare. Success will always be celebrated, studied, and modeled, but there are key factors we tend to overlook:


Movies, TV, the stages of life known as social media have all duped us. (In my strong Mount Vernon accented voice) We have been tricked, hoodwinked, bamboozled, led astray, run a muck! We have been offered and full willing to drink the Kool-aid (let me see if I can think of any more …. nah … I’m good). We have been fed the image of sexiness being linked with love, and we have fallen for it hook, line and sinker (my bad … there was one more … I promise I’m done now).


We are officially over the hump in the latter have of January. The first quarter of the year can fly by if you let it, but I would like to offer 5 things every leader can do to ensure a strong start to the organizational year: (more…)

I’ve only had one fight. EVER! It was 1985 at the brand new 15th Street School. I was a kindergartener playing kickball with my friends on the play ground, and I was accused of cheating. Of course I didn’t cheat at all, but the accusation was hurled at me, because some kid didn’t like the outcome. (more…)

Last week the black church world was in yet another uproar due to Facebook Live. In this installment, infamous gospel, Leandria Johnson goes on a smoke filled rant that included some content worthy of a Parental Advisement sticker. She goes in on the ecclesiastical establishment about hypocrisy, elitism, and the damage it causes people; punctuating her complaints with strong stiff “f*** you” to the church. (more…)

The pervasive concept of “us vs. them” is the basis of racism, classism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, and in the words of Pastor Shirley Caesar, YOU NAME IT! While it can be fun to participate in simple sports rivalries, or debate who’s greek organization is the best, the hurtful nature of exclusivity does far more damage than people realize.  (more…)

There is this notion that “respect must be earned.” I’ve heard this all of my life and have pretty much always fallen in line with that thinking. However, the older I get the more I realize that this is NOT the way things should be. The english language is tricky because we tend to use a singular word to describe multiple things. Most people will say the word “respect” in exchange for the word “admire”, which causes a fallacy in the idea that “respect must be earned.”  (more…)