Unfortunately, we tend to devalue our success by looking at the success of others. I don’t like to think that there are “levels” to success, but instead, people experience different types of success. If we don’t use this idea and model for measuring success, it can become a dangerous game, that no one wins, when we begin to compare. Success will always be celebrated, studied, and modeled, but there are key factors we tend to overlook:

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We are officially over the hump in the latter have of January. The first quarter of the year can fly by if you let it, but I would like to offer 5 things every leader can do to ensure a strong start to the organizational year: (more…)

Last week the black church world was in yet another uproar due to Facebook Live. In this installment, infamous gospel, Leandria Johnson goes on a smoke filled rant that included some content worthy of a Parental Advisement sticker. She goes in on the ecclesiastical establishment about hypocrisy, elitism, and the damage it causes people; punctuating her complaints with strong stiff “f*** you” to the church. (more…)

The pervasive concept of “us vs. them” is the basis of racism, classism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, and in the words of Pastor Shirley Caesar, YOU NAME IT! While it can be fun to participate in simple sports rivalries, or debate who’s greek organization is the best, the hurtful nature of exclusivity does far more damage than people realize.  (more…)

I haven’t completely figured out the official cutoffs, but it’s generally accepted that I am a late Generation X’er. There are many things that differentiate us from other generations but I believe one of the greatest differences is that we are a passion driven generation. Before us, the Baby Boomers and the Silent Generations were all focused on potential. To this day, Boomers are concerned that their grandchildren live up to their potential by pushing  education and getting a good job. Think about the civil rights movements, feminism, and the space programs of the sixties and early seventies, and you will see how much that generation wanted to maximize the capacity of what they could do. I was raised and educated by that generation, and they are still watching me to make sure I live up to my potential. (more…)

I work with elementary school kids, first through fourth grade. At these ages kids aren’t just learning their ABC’s and 123’s, but they are also learning social behaviors and how exist outside of the world that they know: which is home. Their immaturity is evident in their behavior, which is routinely excused with these words: “they’re just little kids.”

I understand this fact, but the schoolhouse (as the old folks call it) is a place to learn what is acceptable behavior when you’re around other people.

I’ve noticed that there are certain behaviors that my first graders display in my classroom, that MANY ADULTS display online. (more…)

It’s been said, time and again, that everything that has a beginning has an end; yet we tend to always be surprised when relationships end. Excluding death, people will end relationships for any variety of reasons. Some legitimate, others … not so much. As an introvert, I tend to be somewhat of a loner, but coming to grips with someone’s departure from your life, can difficult, no matter your predisposition. Here are 5 tips to help you through the transition of “moving on”:  (more…)

I have been watching a new show entitled, Designated Survivor. The premise is as follows: the federal government designates someone from the president’s cabinet to sit out from the state of the union, in an undisclosed location, on the chance of a catastrophe  wiping out the line of presidential succession. This person is the designated survivor, who would assume the office, keep the federal government rolling. Throughout the years, this has been a mere formality, until the unthinkable happens; and the Secretary of Housing and Urban Development, Tom Kirkman is thrutsed into leading the country and the free world, after the Capital Building is bombed, killing almost everyone in every branch of the government.  (more…)

 

Have you ever heard the saying “too heavenly minded, that you’re no earthly good”? Well clichés are cliches for a reason, because this is a true statement. One of the greatest criticisms of the Christian faith is our preoccupation with heaven and what happens after we die. This fascination is particularly prevalent in the African-American church, because historically black slaves were taught that we should only expect our reward in heaven, and that teaching just remained a fundamental philosophical fixture. In fact, I can not recall a funeral, in a black church, that I did not hear the song, “Going Up Yonder”. It doesn’t stop there. The church at large sings “I’ll Fly Away”, “Sweet By And By”, and “When We All Get To Heaven” with a seemingly greater fervor than others.  (more…)

I’ve heard it seen at time and time again. A parent will get down on their knee and look their small child in the eyes and say something to the effect of, “I ain’t raising no punk. Now, don’t you start a fight, but you better not let them run over you.”   (more…)