Earlier today, my wife came into my classroom, to talk to me, and she lets me know there is a little crust in my eye. I tried to get it, but she said I made it look worse. So I stood up to let her get it, and when she was done, I tried sit back down at my desk, and completely missed the chair. Now, I’m on the floor! Thank goodness none of my students saw me, and even though she laughed at me, she dusted me off and made sure I was okay. (more…)

A couple of months ago, the hard drive on my computer crashed. It happens. Either I bumped it too hard, or a program corrupted it, or perhaps it just wore out. I’m not really sure why, but it crashed. So I take in to be fixed, and the technician informs me that with installing a new hard drive, I may lose some information. I wouldn’t lose EVERYTHING, but there were a couple of very important things, that may no longer be there. He said, they would save as much as they could, but the computer would basically have to be reset, to its original settings. So even all the things that I did to personalize my home screen and menus would be all gone. In other words, I was able to save the computer, and have it, but it just wouldn’t be the same.


Fourteen years ago, my bride and I stood at the altar of St. James Baptist Church and exchanged vows to love, honor, respect and care for each other, no matter our circumstance. We were instructed that marriage was a sacred thing that should not be entered into lightly, but we should really know the weight of our words. At the wedding, if no one else does, the bride and groom are optimistic. All we knew in that moment was that we loved each other, and that we made each other happy; so we said “I do”.  But, just like many other couples before us, and certainly those after us, we really had no idea what we were saying “I do” to. (more…)

People talk all the time about wanting love. They say stuff like they want to “find love”, but truth be told, love isn’t lost. We find love in the things we value.


Angela & Derek ATLIt has been said that my wife and I give people hope. Hope that they can find love that’s works. While Angela and I do have a great relationship, I would hardly consider us to be role models (but that’s just because I’ve experienced what other people didn’t see). We are just two imperfect people who have chosen to commit to this relationship by submitting to each other. It isn’t always easy, but its worth it. (more…)

After hearing FLOTUS speak the other night, my wife was inspired to write on her blog, about “What a Husband Needs.” In this piece she lays out, very beautifully, how wives should relate to their husbands. So now I’m inspired to write. Every wife needs … (more…)

(I was going to do this differently, but I’m going to go this route.)

Being in a relationship with the same woman for almost 16 years has taught me at least one thing: people are imperfect. There is no one on God’s green earth that doesn’t need improving in some way. We all have flaws, but these flaws are magnified in relationships (especially in marriage). (more…)

There was a time that I would not eat cabbage. My mom would cook it all the time with smoked sausage, and I just hated it. It made me gag. It was so bad that it took a long time to even like smoked sausage again. After a long time, I decided to give cabbage a try again. Angela loves (and I mean LOVES) cabbage, so I gave it a go. Well, as it turns out, it was actually pretty good. (more…)

Today is World HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, and I have seen a lot of talk about protecting yourself. To be sure, you can’t live in this world and not be fully aware of this dreadful disease and its sociological effects. We can never expect to conquer HIV/AIDS without being responsible.

However, at the risk of sounding preachy, “protection” isn’t your best option in preventing the spread of HIV/AIDS. (more…)

I’m sure no one was remotely surprised with the news of Kim Kardashian’s divorce from NBA baller, Kris Humphries. Their relationship didn’t come across as a match made in heaven, and certainly not a match heaven made. But apparently, it only took 72 days for them to realize that they shouldn’t be married. (more…)