The pervasive concept of "us vs. them" is the basis of racism, classism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, and in the words of Pastor Shirley Caesar, YOU NAME IT! While it can be fun to participate in simple sports rivalries, or debate who's greek organization is the best, the hurtful nature of exclusivity does far more damage … Continue reading Us VS Them
There is this notion that "respect must be earned." I've heard this all of my life and have pretty much always fallen in line with that thinking. However, the older I get the more I realize that this is NOT the way things should be. The english language is tricky because we tend to use … Continue reading Who Are You? (The Respect Fallacy)
People come and people go; that's just the way life works. We are living in a generation that is slowly getting back to understanding the power of connection. Yes we have personal responsibility, but we are also better together. With this longing for relationship and the fulfillment that comes from them, there is also the … Continue reading Maybe It’s YOU!
https://youtu.be/PzpLkcfBe-A Everybody wants a hook up nowadays. Internet stars seem to be born every minute, and everyone becoming an entrepreneur or building a brand. One of the most effective ways to market yourself in this climate is to hitch yourself to a big name, so you can be associated with a known figure. The right … Continue reading I Wanna Be Down
It's been said, time and again, that everything that has a beginning has an end; yet we tend to always be surprised when relationships end. Excluding death, people will end relationships for any variety of reasons. Some legitimate, others ... not so much. As an introvert, I tend to be somewhat of a loner, but … Continue reading The Art of Moving On
Whenever bad things happen, or relationships end, people go on the hunt for closure. Closure is the sense of resolution at the end of something, that brings a conclusion after an emotional or traumatic event. Tons of doctors and tv shows make their living on trying to bring closure to the people who need it. … Continue reading Chasing Mermaids & Unicorns
Earlier today, my wife came into my classroom, to talk to me, and she lets me know there is a little crust in my eye. I tried to get it, but she said I made it look worse. So I stood up to let her get it, and when she was done, I tried sit back down … Continue reading She Laughed When I Fell
https://youtu.be/5wBTdfAkqGU California is a unique place, and the people who live there (I believe) love to tell you where they are from. They are fully aware that there is no other place like California. California is a destination for millions of vacationers and dreamers, with bright lights and big cities in their eyes. However, those … Continue reading California Love
We tell people all the time, "Don't compare yourself to anyone else." "Embrace your own uniqueness." "There is only one YOU." Sure we say that stuff, but we really don't mean it. How many times have you gotten caught up in those discussions about your "top 5 rappers of all time"? People magazine does their … Continue reading Apples To Pears
There is a statement going around, that honestly makes me cringe just about every time I hear it. "They're in their feelings." It's not so much the words that are spoken, it is usually the tone in which they are spoken. It usually sounds condescending, almost like mockery. It's the tone you would use to … Continue reading Why Is It So Wrong Just To Feel?